Tag: goals

How I Landed a Talent Agent

How I Landed a Talent Agent

Like most things in my life, my path to getting signed with a talent agent was pretty unconventional (at least, it wasn’t how I imagine the process usually goes). I finally got the nerve to apply to two talent agencies back in February. My acting […]

How My Entire Life Changed in the Course of One Year

How My Entire Life Changed in the Course of One Year

I signed up for the Friends in Film program one year ago this month. When I joined, I had no idea just how much (and how quickly) my life was about to change. It did take about six months to actually get my first production […]

Trust That Gut (and Also, Do Things Instead of Waiting for Things to Happen)

Trust That Gut (and Also, Do Things Instead of Waiting for Things to Happen)

A few weeks ago, I applied for an office assistant position with a local talent agency. Their office is located in the city I would love to live in, plus it’s a job in the field I want to get into, so I figured it would be a good opportunity for me.

Then I had that really great film shoot, where I made awesome connections and felt like my PA career was finally moving forward.

When I was offered an interview for the job, I was first, shocked, and second, felt like it might actually now be a step backwards for me. I talked it over with my sister and decided I should do the interview anyway. Something in me told me I should. I figured if nothing else I would make another great connection in the local film industry and when I applied for representation again, they would at least know who I was.

I went and interviewed. I did not get a job, but I did get what may potentially be a really great step forward for me in this career I’m pursuing. (More details on that in blog posts to come.)

If I had just ignored my gut and stayed home instead of interviewing, I would have missed out on that. If I didn’t make an effort each and every day to find acting or PA gigs or work on my scripts or look for publishers for my music books I would never get these awesome opportunities I keep finding. I know that sounds super obvious but that was a huge epiphany for me. These opportunities aren’t going to find me if I sit at home wishing hard enough for them. My books won’t write themselves just because someday I dreamed of seeing my name on a bookstore shelf. I can’t make film industry connections if I sit at home on the weekends instead of driving myself here there and everywhere for film festivals and networking events and film shoots.

Because I have been doing all these things, I’ve started seeing some really awesome results. One of my film connections asked me to act in a short film for him. One of the casting companies I’ve worked with offered me a gig as an extra without me even applying for it. A publishing company I reached out to to see if they accept submissions asked me to send them one of my books and seem really interested in publishing it. Honestly, I’m not even doing that much. I could definitely be working a lot harder at this stuff. But even just a little bit of effort has gotten me opportunities I had only dreamed of before.

So to sum up what I’ve been learning: Ignore your fears, trust your gut, and actually do things to get you closer towards your goals. 🙂




When In Doubt, Do It Anyway

When In Doubt, Do It Anyway

Here’s a lesson I keep learning over and over: if there’s something you really want to do but you have doubts, ignore those doubts and do it anyway. This past weekend I worked as a production assistant on a short film about three hours from […]

Why You Shouldn’t Shut Up About Your Goals

Why You Shouldn’t Shut Up About Your Goals

I recently read this article about how you should keep your goals to yourself. I really dislike and disagree with this article. Brendon Burchard, who has interviewed and studied some of the most successful people of today (you can read or hear more about this […]

Don’t Be Afraid to Tell People What You Want

Don’t Be Afraid to Tell People What You Want

I think I touched on this subject briefly two posts ago, but I was reminded again this week just how important this is.

Brendan Burchard talks about this too in his book “High Performance Habits.” He says (and I am way paraphrasing) to be open and vocal about your goals so others can help you reach them. People don’t know to recommend or help you if they don’t know what it is you want to do.

I always feel kind of ridiculous telling people that I’m an actor or that I want to act. It just sounds like such an out-of-reach thing that no one would seriously pursue. I feel like I’m way too old for such a silly dream.

It wasn’t until I started working on student films and taking acting classes that I realized I should not feel that way. I suddenly found myself surrounded with like-minded individuals. My friends and family are awesome and encouraging, but it is completely different to be around people who have the same goals that you do. It really made me see that yes, people take this career seriously and yes, there are other people a lot like me who are making a living doing the same things I want to do. I realized, for the first time ever, just how within reach this dream actually could be for me.

Anyway, fast forward to January 2019. At the end of my first day as a production assistant, the director asked me what my goals are. I told him I want to act and possibly script supervise, and he told me he could possibly put me in the film. Which he did, the second day I helped on set. He added me as a waitress in one of the scenes and even wrote a couple lines for me on the spot.

Yesterday, my friend Rachel sent me a post from someone looking for local actors for student films. An opportunity I have been looking for on my own, to gain both PA and acting experience, with not much luck. Had I not been talking about this to her nonstop, she wouldn’t have known to send the opportunities she found my way.

I have gotten several roles in local things simply because other people knew I was interested in acting and asked me to be part of it or recommended me to their friends. I would have missed out on all of them if I had continued to keep my goals and dreams to myself.

So, three things:

  1. Don’t be ashamed of your dreams or afraid to ask for the things you really want. Being honest with yourself and others will help you move forward so much faster.
  2. Ignore anyone who may make fun of or laugh at you. They’re probably jealous that they don’t have the guts that you do.
  3. Never feel silly about your dreams. Your dreams were given to you for a reason.

 




“You Once Dreamed of Being Where You Are Now”

“You Once Dreamed of Being Where You Are Now”

Early last month, I came across a pin on Pinterest that read, “Remember that once you dreamed of being where you are now.” That particular day, I received that same message in three different places, so I figured I should probably pay attention. My initial […]

New Year, New Perspective

New Year, New Perspective

I know a lot of people scoff at the idea of New Year’s resolutions, but I think the New Year is a great time to re-evaluate your life and try to make it better. I don’t really have any new goals, but I have been […]

What Happens When You Don’t Give Up (or, 2018 in Review)

What Happens When You Don’t Give Up (or, 2018 in Review)

Last December, I was ready to give up on all my dreams. I was discouraged, frustrated, and just…tired. It would be a much easier life if I just settled for working at the music store.

But the universe wasn’t ready to let me give up. I kept receiving signs that I should keep trying (including this gift from a friend of mine:)

Close to New Year’s, I came across an ad for Brendon Burchard’s “High Performance Habits: How Successful People Become That Way.” It was being offered for only the price of shipping ($7), and I kept wondering what the catch was. But I figured $7 was not too much to lose, so I bought it. And it ended up changing my entire life. That lead to my buying even more self-help books and listening to motivational people like Tony Robbins on YouTube. 2018 would have been way different without all the books and videos I consumed. I accomplished more this year than I have in a very long time.

Here is what I was able to accomplish this year:

  1. I wrote 3 woodwind warm-up books.
  2. I got to be an extra in 3 feature films.
  3. I found an online program that teaches how to get work on film sets and have been slowly working my way into that world. In fact, I have two gigs already lined up for next year.
  4. I got my first major musical role. (Which turned out to be one of the best experiences of my life.)
  5. I accepted another role for a local production of “Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?”
  6. I have a completed, very rough draft of a play.
  7. I took my very first acting course. (And then was invited to take the advanced level of the course, which was not offered to everyone in the class.)
  8. I was part of a 48 hour film (where I had to learn a song and lines the day of taping).
  9. I started a production company.
  10. I have almost everything ready to start filming my short film, “Slow Death.” (This doesn’t sound like much, but it includes storyboarding the script, buying props and costumes, finding people to make the costumes and film, holding auditions and casting, and finding locations.)
  11. Finished a sitcom pilot and entered it into two competitions.
  12. Created several YouTube videos.
  13. Wrote an ebook called “Affirmations for Actors” (available soon!).

There are other projects that I started, including a couple novels, a beginning clarinet book, an improv course, and a musical. For the first time maybe ever, I’m starting to feel like my dreams of acting and writing for a living are within my grasp. They seem more real to me now than ever before.

I would have missed out on so many awesome opportunities if I had just decided to give up. Tony Robbins likes to say something to the effect of, “People like to give up right before something amazing is about to happen for them.” (That is super paraphrased.) It’s true. If you feel like giving up, keep going just a little bit longer. Something great is waiting for you, too.




What Happens When You Stop Wishing and Start Doing

What Happens When You Stop Wishing and Start Doing

At the beginning of this year, I decided I’d had enough of just wishing and whining and hoping that all my dreams would magically come true. I suddenly found myself with this persistent drive to start making those dreams actually happen. I bought the book […]