Like most things in my life, my path to getting signed with a talent agent was pretty unconventional (at least, it wasn’t how I imagine the process usually goes). I finally got the nerve to apply to two talent agencies back in February. My acting […]
I signed up for the Friends in Film program one year ago this month. When I joined, I had no idea just how much (and how quickly) my life was about to change. It did take about six months to actually get my first production […]
A few weeks ago, I applied for an office assistant position with a local talent agency. Their office is located in the city I would love to live in, plus it’s a job in the field I want to get into, so I figured it would be a good opportunity for me.
Then I had that really great film shoot, where I made awesome connections and felt like my PA career was finally moving forward.
When I was offered an interview for the job, I was first, shocked, and second, felt like it might actually now be a step backwards for me. I talked it over with my sister and decided I should do the interview anyway. Something in me told me I should. I figured if nothing else I would make another great connection in the local film industry and when I applied for representation again, they would at least know who I was.
I went and interviewed. I did not get a job, but I did get what may potentially be a really great step forward for me in this career I’m pursuing. (More details on that in blog posts to come.)
If I had just ignored my gut and stayed home instead of interviewing, I would have missed out on that. If I didn’t make an effort each and every day to find acting or PA gigs or work on my scripts or look for publishers for my music books I would never get these awesome opportunities I keep finding. I know that sounds super obvious but that was a huge epiphany for me. These opportunities aren’t going to find me if I sit at home wishing hard enough for them. My books won’t write themselves just because someday I dreamed of seeing my name on a bookstore shelf. I can’t make film industry connections if I sit at home on the weekends instead of driving myself here there and everywhere for film festivals and networking events and film shoots.
Because I have been doing all these things, I’ve started seeing some really awesome results. One of my film connections asked me to act in a short film for him. One of the casting companies I’ve worked with offered me a gig as an extra without me even applying for it. A publishing company I reached out to to see if they accept submissions asked me to send them one of my books and seem really interested in publishing it. Honestly, I’m not even doing that much. I could definitely be working a lot harder at this stuff. But even just a little bit of effort has gotten me opportunities I had only dreamed of before.
So to sum up what I’ve been learning: Ignore your fears, trust your gut, and actually do things to get you closer towards your goals. 🙂
Above: Me acting as art director for my friend’s short film. My goal at the beginning of the year was to blog twice a week. And as much as I’ve tried to keep my Sunday and Wednesday blog schedule, that has not always been possible […]
I recently read this article about how you should keep your goals to yourself.
I really dislike and disagree with this article.
Brendon Burchard, who has interviewed and studied some of the most successful people of today (you can read or hear more about this on his website or YouTube channel), suggests you do the opposite. Don’t be shy about your goals. Talk to people about them.
I’ve been following that advice for a year now, and here’s what I’ve seen in my own life:
- Sharing your goals with others will lead to opportunities you may not have found otherwise. Last year, a friend recommended me to a filmmaker friend of his that was making a short film for the 48 Hour Film Festival. Another friend sent me a Facebook post about local students who were looking for people to help with their films. I got a small role in a feature film because I told the director I want to be an actor. All of these came about because I told them what my goals are. I would not have found them on my own. (For the last one, he made up my role and lines on the spot the day of filming. I definitely would not have gotten that opportunity any other way.)
- Sharing your goals could inspire those around you. I love watching my friends set and achieve their goals and dreams. If they can do it, it makes me feel like maybe I can too. When they stumble along the way, it also helps me to realize I’m not the only one that struggles.
- Sharing my goals in a positive way (as opposed to the negative “My goal is to stop drinking sodas. It’s going to suck.” example the article gives) makes me more likely to achieve them. If I were to focus on the negative things that come with achieving my goals (for example, the often long days on a film set), I would definitely talk myself out of working on them. But if I focus on how awesome the outcomes of working towards my goals are (I get to work with awesome people, eat free food on set, travel, etc.), I’m much more likely to drag myself out of bed at 4:00 am to work on a film set. Doesn’t that positive one just feel so much better? Which mindset would you rather go in with? I’ve worked with plenty of people who choose the negative one, and it doesn’t do anyone any good.
He does make a semi-good point at the end. Some people are jerks. Some people don’t care about your goals. That’s fine. And I agree, don’t share them with those people. But I do not agree that you shouldn’t share them just because someone might get upset or jealous about them. Let those people deal with their own issues. Some people try to discourage you because they want to protect you. Some people say hateful things about your goals because they don’t have the guts to work towards their own. Know that their issue isn’t with you and move on to people who do support and encourage you.
So, yes, he is right in that you shouldn’t just share your goals and then not do anything else about them. But I have seen in my own life how sharing my goals and getting off my butt to achieve them has gotten me closer to my dreams than keeping those goals to myself ever did.
I think I touched on this subject briefly two posts ago, but I was reminded again this week just how important this is. Brendan Burchard talks about this too in his book “High Performance Habits.” He says (and I am way paraphrasing) to be open […]
Feel like you don’t have what it takes to achieve your dreams? Reciting affirmations can help you change your mindset and give you the confidence you need to just go for it! I recommend reciting affirmations at least once per day. I find affirmations on […]
Early last month, I came across a pin on Pinterest that read, “Remember that once you dreamed of being where you are now.” That particular day, I received that same message in three different places, so I figured I should probably pay attention.
My initial reaction, as usual, was negative. I thought about my ever increasing credit card debt, crappy apartment, and less-than-ideal work situation. Yup. Living the dream.
Then I remembered how I got to sing a solo in a musical at the end of October. Within the past year, I got to be an extra in three films and was asked to be part of a short film for the 48 Hour Film Fest. I finally took an acting class. I take dance classes when I am able. I have dreamed of all of these things for many years (some since kindergarten!).
I’m so quick to discount the steps I’ve taken just because I’m not where I want to be yet. But that’s not fair to myself. I have been putting in the work. I need to start celebrating my small gains and enjoy the journey instead of just focusing on the fact that I’m not full-time in the industry yet.
In the online course I’m in (“Friends in Film”), Janet Urban reminded us that it doesn’t matter how long it takes as long as we are working towards it (whatever “it” is for you). Taking a moment every once in awhile to remind myself of all the awesome things I have done helps me to see that I am in fact making progress, no matter how often it feels that I am not.
What are some gains you’ve made towards your goals? Put them in the comments below and feel proud of how far you’ve come! 🙂