I recently read this article about how you should keep your goals to yourself. I really dislike and disagree with this article. Brendon Burchard, who has interviewed and studied some of the most successful people of today (you can read or hear more about this […]
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Last December, I was ready to give up on all my dreams. I was discouraged, frustrated, and just…tired. It would be a much easier life if I just settled for working at the music store.
But the universe wasn’t ready to let me give up. I kept receiving signs that I should keep trying (including this gift from a friend of mine:)
Close to New Year’s, I came across an ad for Brendon Burchard’s “High Performance Habits: How Successful People Become That Way.” It was being offered for only the price of shipping ($7), and I kept wondering what the catch was. But I figured $7 was not too much to lose, so I bought it. And it ended up changing my entire life. That lead to my buying even more self-help books and listening to motivational people like Tony Robbins on YouTube. 2018 would have been way different without all the books and videos I consumed. I accomplished more this year than I have in a very long time.
Here is what I was able to accomplish this year:
- I wrote 3 woodwind warm-up books.
- I got to be an extra in 3 feature films.
- I found an online program that teaches how to get work on film sets and have been slowly working my way into that world. In fact, I have two gigs already lined up for next year.
- I got my first major musical role. (Which turned out to be one of the best experiences of my life.)
- I accepted another role for a local production of “Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?”
- I have a completed, very rough draft of a play.
- I took my very first acting course. (And then was invited to take the advanced level of the course, which was not offered to everyone in the class.)
- I was part of a 48 hour film (where I had to learn a song and lines the day of taping).
- I started a production company.
- I have almost everything ready to start filming my short film, “Slow Death.” (This doesn’t sound like much, but it includes storyboarding the script, buying props and costumes, finding people to make the costumes and film, holding auditions and casting, and finding locations.)
- Finished a sitcom pilot and entered it into two competitions.
- Created several YouTube videos.
- Wrote an ebook called “Affirmations for Actors” (available soon!).
There are other projects that I started, including a couple novels, a beginning clarinet book, an improv course, and a musical. For the first time maybe ever, I’m starting to feel like my dreams of acting and writing for a living are within my grasp. They seem more real to me now than ever before.
I would have missed out on so many awesome opportunities if I had just decided to give up. Tony Robbins likes to say something to the effect of, “People like to give up right before something amazing is about to happen for them.” (That is super paraphrased.) It’s true. If you feel like giving up, keep going just a little bit longer. Something great is waiting for you, too.
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At the beginning of this year, I decided I’d had enough of just wishing and whining and hoping that all my dreams would magically come true. I suddenly found myself with this persistent drive to start making those dreams actually happen.
I bought the book “High Performance Habits” by Brendon Burchard on a whim. At that time, he was offering it for only the cost of shipping ($7), so I figured why not? It’s turned out to be the best $7 I’ve ever spent. Since I finished the book in January, I have been putting some of his tips into practice, and they are completely turning my life around.
One of the habits he talks about is setting goals and deadlines to meet those goals. So, I made a list of the things I’d like to achieve and then made another list of the steps it will take to get me there. I looked at my lists and wondered if I had too many things on there that I want to do (ten at the time, in addition to a list of 10 books/musicals/films I want to write). Brendan also talks about cutting things out of your life that are time-consuming and take your attention away from the things you want to do most in your life, so I began to put stars by the things I wanted most. This turned out to be half of the list. Then I looked at the rest of the list and realized I needed to do those other things to help me accomplish the starred things. So I figured for now, I would pursue all of the things on my list as I was able.
February’s to do list went incredibly well. March’s was even better. I found I had accomplished all of the things I wanted to in less than two weeks. Then I felt a little lost. After a week or so, I set some new goals and accomplished most of those, too.
Here’s a list of the things I got done in March:
- Finished the rough draft of my flute warm up book.
- Read “Motivation Manifesto” by Brendon Burchard.
- Read “Music Practice” by David Dumais.
- Read “Courage to be Creative” by Doreen Virtue.
- Gave copies of my flute woodwind book to my sax/flute teacher and to two of my flute students for feedback.
- Wrote a script scene breakdown for my “Slow Death” short film.
- Finished a very, very rough draft of a script for my musical.
- Started writing a novel.
In addition, I also practiced (somewhat) for my piano and sax lessons, practiced for the vocal group I’m in, started rehearsing for a music duo with my coworker, arranged and transposed four pieces of music for my students, and even practiced on my clarinet and flute just because I wanted to. And guys, I wasn’t even that diligent about all those things. I even took a whole week off in the middle of the month. I just made a point to watch less t.v. and stay off my phone a little more and work on one of my creative things almost daily (with the exception of that one week).
It’s kind of mind blowing, actually, when I look at the list. This is much different from how my life has been up to this point.
I’ve noticed a pattern in all the books I’ve been reading lately: they all basically say the same thing about living your best creative life. One of the biggest things they recommend (even the “Music Practice” one) is setting goals. So if you’re feeling like life is passing you by and you’re accomplishing nothing (like I was feeling), I highly recommend any and all of those books. (Side note: “Courage to be Creative” was written by a Christian mystic, and she mentions her beliefs often. I don’t necessarily adhere to all of her beliefs, but she still makes some pretty great points and also offers some of the best advice I’ve found on making money from your creative endeavors.)
Another awesome side effect of setting goals and deadlines and sticking with them is that I am far less depressed than I was before. I get more out of each day and actually finally feel like my life is heading in some sort of direction. I just feel so much better overall.
Some tips for crushing your own goals:
- Make a list of the things you’d like to accomplish.
- Make another list of the steps it will take to accomplish those goals and set deadlines for those steps.
- Choose how much time you want to spend on your goals each day. Set a timer on your phone (so you aren’t checking the time every 30 seconds) and focus solely on that goal during that time. (This has done wonders for me. That way I make sure I work on most of my small steps daily instead of getting caught up in, say, reading one of my books. Also, I’m less distracted because I know the timer will tell me when it’s time to move on.)
- I have also made a point to write down my accomplishments at the end of each day. So on days when I maybe feel I’m not accomplishing much, I can go back and see that I really am getting things done.
- Just do it! 🙂