Why You Shouldn’t Shut Up About Your Goals
I recently read this article about how you should keep your goals to yourself.
I really dislike and disagree with this article.
Brendon Burchard, who has interviewed and studied some of the most successful people of today (you can read or hear more about this on his website or YouTube channel), suggests you do the opposite. Don’t be shy about your goals. Talk to people about them.
I’ve been following that advice for a year now, and here’s what I’ve seen in my own life:
- Sharing your goals with others will lead to opportunities you may not have found otherwise. Last year, a friend recommended me to a filmmaker friend of his that was making a short film for the 48 Hour Film Festival. Another friend sent me a Facebook post about local students who were looking for people to help with their films. I got a small role in a feature film because I told the director I want to be an actor. All of these came about because I told them what my goals are. I would not have found them on my own. (For the last one, he made up my role and lines on the spot the day of filming. I definitely would not have gotten that opportunity any other way.)
- Sharing your goals could inspire those around you. I love watching my friends set and achieve their goals and dreams. If they can do it, it makes me feel like maybe I can too. When they stumble along the way, it also helps me to realize I’m not the only one that struggles.
- Sharing my goals in a positive way (as opposed to the negative “My goal is to stop drinking sodas. It’s going to suck.” example the article gives) makes me more likely to achieve them. If I were to focus on the negative things that come with achieving my goals (for example, the often long days on a film set), I would definitely talk myself out of working on them. But if I focus on how awesome the outcomes of working towards my goals are (I get to work with awesome people, eat free food on set, travel, etc.), I’m much more likely to drag myself out of bed at 4:00 am to work on a film set. Doesn’t that positive one just feel so much better? Which mindset would you rather go in with? I’ve worked with plenty of people who choose the negative one, and it doesn’t do anyone any good.
He does make a semi-good point at the end. Some people are jerks. Some people don’t care about your goals. That’s fine. And I agree, don’t share them with those people. But I do not agree that you shouldn’t share them just because someone might get upset or jealous about them. Let those people deal with their own issues. Some people try to discourage you because they want to protect you. Some people say hateful things about your goals because they don’t have the guts to work towards their own. Know that their issue isn’t with you and move on to people who do support and encourage you.
So, yes, he is right in that you shouldn’t just share your goals and then not do anything else about them. But I have seen in my own life how sharing my goals and getting off my butt to achieve them has gotten me closer to my dreams than keeping those goals to myself ever did.